Our relationship has been quite the roller coaster ride from the beginning. We started out on that slow uphill climb, awaiting the anticipation of what came next. Then came the fast downfall and sharp turn, and things fell apart. We turned another corner and started another exciting climb. We went up and down on this roller coaster with a few twists and turns but it finally came to that long stretch where you slow down and come to a halt.
It was then that we were both very committed and ready to get married. It was about 3 weeks before our wedding date when we found out you were being deployed to Iraq. We were both full of so many different emotions, but, we knew this time would eventually come. What neither of us were prepared for was that we were getting ready to get back on that roller coaster, only this time, that roller coaster would be a different one, that would linger the rest of our lives.
To an outsider looking in, they may say that we are crazy to stay together, what they don't see is the reason's that I stay. No, to the average person, we don't have a great marriage, but when have we ever been average and you know the saying “you can't judge a book by it's cover,” well, the cover doesn't even scratch the surface. What the average person doesn't know or see, is that we DO have a great marriage, the kind of marriage that everyone wants and longs for. We stick together and we know how to work together to have it. A relationship is work and you have to be willing in order to keep it.
You are one of the most caring people I have ever met, you would give a stranger the shirt off your back if the need be. You go out of your way to help people and the community/neighbors in ways that others would never acknowledge, let alone do themselves. Family is the most important thing to you, your family always comes first and you do everything/anything for them. This includes extended family, not just immediate family. You also put your life on the line everyday to protect mine, our families, the neighbors and Americans everywhere. You take great pride in being a soldier, that is something that very few can say. For those reasons, which is just a very small few, is why I love you and am so proud of you and honored to be your wife. To tell you every reason would require me to write a book but I hope that I tell you enough that you are aware of all the little reasons as well.
The other day, you asked me if I was happy. My answer to you without hesitation was YES! While it is true, we have a few more obstacles to work through than the average couple, the truth remains that we are both willing to put the effort it takes. When so many would rather run when things get extremely tough, we are together, pushing forward. We have overcome so much together, we have been tested time and time again yet, we stand beside each other, we support each other and we help each other learn and grow. Everyday may be some kind of struggle, some new and some we have faced time and time before but our love is strong enough to endure what ever may be thrown our way.
You are my light, my strength, my hero, my best friend, my forever love!
Submitted by Julie
This blog post is part of The Love Letter Campaign... a project started by FamilyOfaVet.com to encourage those who love a hero to write a letter sharing their story (where they started, what they've faced together, and why their love endures). It's not just for spouses, but also for parents, siblings, caregivers, and friends. It's about telling the "rest" of our stories... stories that continue despite PTSD, TBI, and the challenges of life after combat. To share your love letter or find out more about the campaign, visithttp://www.familyofavet.co