Tuesday, February 14, 2012
The Love Letter Campaign: For Better or Worse
My Dearest Husband,
I knew the night I met you that my life was changed forever. I had no idea how much.
Here I am, 4 years and a whole lot of adventure later, your wife. From the summer walks with the little one when you decided to stop going home...to the first utterance of "PTSD"...to rushing to marry because you were going to war yet again...to that awful WTU that so broke your spirit...to nights of anger and destruction and mornings of tears and desperation and just wishing for normal...to blackouts, hospital stays, medications, treatments, and the realization that TBIs don't just stay where they are. Most painful, perhaps, is that you so often believe that you are not worth all this, that your PTSD makes you somehow less of a husband, a father, or a man. I assure you, you are worth every moment. You are not your PTSD.
But after every crisis and every hopeless night, there is something more. We wake renewed, and your head on my shoulder reminds me that when all is said and done, I would rather have these hard times with you than easy times with anyone else.
We promised "for better or for worse" and we meant it. I am incredibly proud of how far you have come in your recovery, and I never want you to doubt again that by your side, good or bad, is where I always want to be.
You have never stopped being the love of my life, not for a moment. I will fight for you as long as I live - for the care that you need and deserve, for understanding from others, and for what we have worked so hard to build.
Forever and ever,
Submitted by Kaete, Proud Wife of a Wounded Warrior
This blog post is part of The Love Letter Campaign... a project started by FamilyOfaVet.com to encourage those who love a hero to write a letter sharing their story (where they started, what they've faced together, and why their love endures). It's not just for spouses, but also for parents, siblings, caregivers, and friends. It's about telling the "rest" of our stories... stories that continue despite PTSD, TBI, and the challenges of life after combat. To share your love letter or find out more about the campaign, visit http://www.familyofavet.com/love_letters.html.