I'm in the middle of doing some site updates to our main site (http://www.familyofavet.com) and while updating our page about "PTSD and Intimacy" ran across a blog post on WebMD that I had to share... actually, I was so driven to share it that I've momentarily taken a break from updating to write this blog post!
I am thankful (oh, so thankful!) to have a hubby who encourages and stands behind my "no holes barred" approach to sharing the details of our life with PTSD and TBI. He, in typical hero fashion, thinks that it's more important for us to reach out and help others than it is to "keep quiet" about things people might not typically share. This mutually shared philosophy is one of the reasons why FamilyOfaVet.com was started!
Now, I've been talking to people for years about this subject... telling veterans and spouses that REALLY they are not the only ones... that "ABSOLUTELY" it is a common (extremely common) issue in marriages with PTSD. I know it is common because I've spoken with (by phone, e-mail, Facebook, etc.) literally thousands of people about this issue over the past few years.
But, today, I have scientific proof! And, I wanted to share that with all of you so that if you're still in the "I feel so alone because we must not be 'normal'" boat, you can know, once and for all, that you are normal (at least in PTSD world)!
A blog post on WebMD entitled PTSD and Sexuality which covers PTSD in general (not just combat-related PTSD) says that **90%** of couples experiencing PTSD report sexual issues. And, while this particular article is discussing sexuality and women, even the author references applying the information to a veteran of Iraq. Now if we go with the estimate of 1 in 5 of the approximately 2 million veterans who have served in Iraq or Afghanistan having PTSD (which would be 400,000), that means 360,000 of them are experiencing issues with intimacy in their relationships. It's kind of hard to say you're "not normal" in a group of 360,000 people just like you!
Well, back to work for me... but there you go... irrefutable proof that you are absolutely not alone :)
Proud wife of an OIF Veteran
Founder of FamilyOfaVet.com - an organization dedicated to helping heroes and their loved ones survive and thrive after combat with real world info about PTSD, TBI, and more!