Thursday, March 17, 2011

The smell of coffee

When I was a little girl, I remember waking up in the mornings and smelling my mom's coffee brewing. That tangy, pungent aroma became a comfort, mostly because it meant she was there, somewhere. As a child, that security is everything. As an adult, I love to smell my coffee in the morning, but mostly now it's because I know I will wake up happy. In its simplicity, however, it always starts my day off with a feeling of "everything is going to be okay".

My name is Stephanie Workman and I am currently the Social Media Liaison for Family of a Vet. Just a few years ago I was the wife of a combat veteran desperately seeking someone--anyone--who could throw me a lifeline. I didn't understand what was going on with my husband and my marriage and I needed someone to validate the demons swimming in my head. By the grace of God above, I was brought to Brannan and Heather at FOV and the rest is not-so-ancient history. This website and these phenomenal people nursed me through one of the toughest times in my life and today I am back to be that lifeline for someone else who needs it like I did.

The story I'm here to tell, however, doesn't necessarily end the way you always want it to. Despite the trials and the desperation, my husband and I were legally divorced a month ago. Although we have three children and we are still very close, we had made the difficult decision to end our ten-year marriage. My subsequent blogs here will be stories of my journey with him through the Army, through deployments, combat in Iraq and especially through the difficulties after the war came home.

I write as if I'm talking to a friend...and I am. My experiences are ones which will inevitably create an "ah ah!" moment for someone out there. If that is you, please let me assure you that you are not alone. Although I am certainly never going to suggest divorce as the best option, it does happen. If writing is therapy for you as it is for myself and many others, please feel free to write to us. We are here with open arms!

Grab yourself a cup of coffee and let's talk.

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